It just so happens that sometimes each of us has to lie. Someone does it in the name of love, someone because they are afraid, and someone to hide something. But when you deceive yourself, this is one thing, but to be in the place of the one who was deceived is quite another. How to solve this problem, read further in the article.
Whatever it was, in the course of observing human behavior, the following behaviors were formed that allows you to recognize when you are lying. Just watch and you may see these signs.
1. Pursed lips
Usually, compressed lips mean that a person is experiencing unpleasant emotions. Thus, he allegedly tries to suppress or hide them. The organism itself shows that this conversation is unpleasant for a person.
2. Strong reaction or dispute
You just spoke to a person, just asked something, and he seems to be ready to throw himself into a fight. The liar begins to argue furiously. And this is an accurate indicator of psychological discomfort. After all, subconsciously a person defends himself from the “threat”. This is the very instinct of self-preservation. What will people do to protect themselves?
3. Touching the neck
This is a sign that the person is nervous, worried, or even afraid. And if he touches the jugular fossa, then all these emotions of his are especially strong. Men often disguise this gesture when they touch their ties. Well, at this very moment they urgently need to fix it.
4. Legs
A long time ago, our society finally formed the opinion that the easiest way to find out when a person is lying is by his face. But it’s not! It is worth taking a closer look at the legs of the “suspect” because sometimes they will tell you much more information. Has it ever happened to you that you start talking with a person on sensitive topics, and he suddenly starts some kind of “disco? His legs are too active. If he starts to pull them, then this is a clear sign that you are lying.
But do not forget that some people constantly twitch their legs, and not just when they lie. Therefore, you need to be more careful.
5. Turn your whole body away
Usually, people act like this when they don’t want to talk about something because it’s hard for them. Or the topic itself is very controversial for them. So they try to distance themselves. The process itself occurs gradually: at first it is small fidgeting, then throwing one leg over the other, wrapping your arms around yourself, etc. These gestures are a kind of barrier. Most often, liars, practically turning around, can continue to look into the eyes.
6. Too sincere look
Forget about cartoon stereotypes that when a person lies, he will definitely lower his eyes to the floor. This is a false assumption. A person can look at the floor not only because of a lie, it can also be an embarrassment, an attempt to collect his thoughts, humility, shame, and dozens of other reasons.
But if a person looks directly into your eyes with the honesty and sincerity of a cat from Shrek, then most likely he is hiding something, trying to convince both you and himself of the opposite.
7. Thumb games
This is one of those gestures that no one ever pays attention to. But it is the position of our fingers that indicates how we feel. If you see that he hides them or at least lowers them, then this means that either he is not serious about the conversation, or he is simply not interested. And this creates dissonance because in words a person is very passionate about the conversation, but his body says otherwise. After all, when a person says something with enthusiasm, then usually his fingers are widely spread.
8. Watch your speech too
Not only body language is important, but the words themselves are also important. Usually, we immediately notice when relatives are lying because we are well aware of their behavior, intonation, voice. But a stranger can also be bitten. Liars start talking faster, louder, start stammering, insert extra words, etc. For the most part, they don’t get the point across, they try to convince you.
Therefore, they will repeat the same information several times, focusing on those moments after which you supposedly have to believe that they are innocent. It is worth being more attentive to delays in responses. For example, saying “that’s a good question” gives the person time to gather their thoughts and come up with an answer.
Of course, this is not the whole list of signs of a lie, but this is a good basis for learning to understand people. Don’t let anyone deceive you.
