There is no need to be afraid that a new state – pregnancy – causes not only positive emotions. It is natural to experience anxiety now, just as it is at the beginning of any new period in life. First love, first job, moving, wedding – these events are associated with changes for the better. But how much excitement and anxiety there was then!
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You are concerned about the main question: “What kind of mother will I be?”
Fears and negative memories pop up, childhood resentment towards parents, disappointment … And how wrapped up and boring your girlfriend has become after she had a baby! Scenes from the movie come to mind, where young mom and dad quarrel while the baby is crying. All this makes the picture of motherhood unsightly. So don’t be passive, write the script for your new role yourself!
- Are you worried about childhood experiences? Let go of feelings from the past and close the door to the room with the sign “I’m afraid to repeat the mistakes of my mother.” Read manuals on family psychology. I recommend Virginie Satir’s You and Your Family to many people. If possible, go to a psychologist.
- Shape your environment. Surely among the acquaintances, there is not only a tired girlfriend but also a cute cheerful couple with a child – it’s time to get closer. Sign up for courses for expectant mothers and fathers, find new friends with whom you have common topics.
- Get creative. Art therapy calms the expectant mother, makes it possible to find contact with the child with the help of colors and images. Communication in a group relieves stress: learning that many people have similar anxieties, you cope with them faster.
AND DAD IS WORRIED ALSO…
Future parents often fear that the appearance of a child will change their relationship with each other
Dad is afraid to be in second place, to lose intimacy with his beloved. And she is worried that her husband will lose interest in her.
It is important to say it out loud: share your thoughts, agree that you will always find time for just the two of you. The good mood of the parents is the key to the successful psychological development of the baby. There is no need to treat the birth of a child as a difficult exam. Everything will be fine!
