Life is very multifaceted, and it is impossible to fully learn it at school or university. We continue to learn all our lives, and success in this matter largely depends on our parents and what kind of relationship we have. And any relationship needs to be worked on. It is most difficult to maintain close communication with children when they have entered adolescence.
It is very painful when your daughter reacts sharply to the care that until recently she appreciated so much, which she rejoiced at and gave you her tenderness in return. But in any important business, there must be strategy and tactics, so take note of our tips on how to be friends with your daughter and what to teach her.
Important to remember
Teenage girls very often feel insecure, because of this they close and snap at any interference in their affairs. It may seem to you that she does not respect you at all and does not perceive you as an authority. But you can’t think like that, otherwise you yourself won’t notice how offended you are by her, and this may later result in a certain degree of alienation between you. Remember what you yourself went through at her age: physiological changes that need to be comprehended, first sympathies for boys, assessing your appearance, and determining your desires. From such an influx of questions and a critical look at oneself, anyone can blow their heads off. Therefore, always keep in mind the fact that it is not easy for her now.
Don’t go too far
Ask her how she’s doing, but don’t push too hard for detailed answers. Do not fish out what she does not want to talk about. But if she opens up and shares a concern, give her support, don’t criticize or be overly afraid for her. It’s a shame when your own mother does not trust you and does not consider you capable of solving your own problems. This is the root of the silence on the question “How are you at school?
Participate in her important events
If your daughter will soon have a performance or an important Olympics, maybe even a date with a boy, do not annoy her with boring advice. The best help in any important event that she has to go through on her own is to instill confidence in her. And to make it easier than ever, remember yourself what this sweet feeling brings you? Most likely, this is the ideal appearance and helps with this.
Teach her how to be a girl
First, we create an external form, and then from it, comprehending every detail of ourselves, we come to an internal understanding. To make a girl feel like a girl and not a confused sexless creature, show her what makes a woman a woman. If your girl puts on glossy lips, this does not mean that she will begin to behave badly and communicate more with boys. But she will know that, like any beautiful, caring woman, her lips are tinted. Children rarely invest in this, some kind of sexual context, adults do it and they themselves are afraid and suffer. Show her that her mom is cool, give her the trendiest color of the season, like GlamBee’s bright pink Lip Shine, and don’t forget to show her a couple of fashion magazines where top models flaunt the same lip color.
Teach her how to paint
Don’t be a prude and don’t say that she will wear makeup when she is 18. The modern world has changed a lot, now it is not considered a bad form to apply cosmetics, even at the age of 10! Moreover, if earlier it was possible to worry about the harm to health from the use of any cosmetics, now scientists have developed special cosmetics for teenagers! Choose a quality foundation for your daughter. The GlamBee Natural look tonal foundation is perfect, it does not negatively affect the skin, but lays down pleasantly, merges with the natural skin tone, and evens out the tone. One of the upsides is that because cosmetics are for teens, they don’t skyrocket in price as adult beauty brands do.
Tell her good things
Give her sincere compliments. Every girl needs to know that her mother considers her beautiful. Remember: her self-esteem largely depends on you. Therefore, you should not think that she knows what you like about her and that she is “the very best.” Speak, even the smallest, in your opinion, amenities. With such small steps, you will bring her to the realization of her own beauty, and for a woman, this is very important.
Give her gifts
We don’t have to wait for a birthday or a New Year to show our loved ones that we love them. Moreover, while your baby does not yet dream of diamonds and cars, she will be happy even with a simple addition to her eye shadow palette. Give her a GlamBee Eyeshadow palette and enjoy how your daughter enjoys every day trying a new shade. This can be an occasion for daily cute conversations, each of you can choose your favorite color and talk for a long time about which shadows are best suited for the blouse chosen for today!
Respect her opinion
Your daughter is growing up, and it is important for her that you notice this. She absorbed a lot from you, but now she is already able to think and make decisions on her own. And mistakes are an important element of learning, without them, she will never gain her own experience. Therefore, if she wants to make shorts out of new jeans, you can say that new jeans will be waiting for her only in six months and it is better for her not to risk her favorite clothes. But at the same time, leave the room and cross your fingers, and not hide your jeans on the balcony, shouting that you know better, and she will grow up – she will understand.
Teach her to express her feelings
Say you love her. This is necessary at any age, and you need to start with diapers. It often seems to people that this is already clear, but we understand with the mind, not with the feelings. Therefore, you should not deny yourself their manifestation, so you get closer and remain frank with each other. It is much easier to tell the person who just said that he loves you about your problem than to the one who arranged a suspicious interrogation and forced him to report how the first date went.
Do not forget to enjoy the process of teaching your daughter, do not succumb to weaknesses and fears. This is the best time in a mom’s life when you can share everything you have with your closest and dearest person.